Are You My Garment?

In our own place

This beautiful complete deen. Good manners are essential. I want to teach them to be grateful to Allah SWT for His numerous blessings, reminding them that He sees all that we do. I'd want them to love the poor, to feed them, to help them and instill love for humanity in my kids. To teach them to honour themselves, parents and all people. To teach them the essence of hayaa and hijab. The importance of hygiene and chastity. To teach them to respect differences and to be tolerant and non-judgemental. To teach them the value of money and goods. I could go on! Most importantly, i worry about raising them here in the west, especially London,so would definitely need to marry someone who shares the same view and wants to raise our kids somewhere peaceful, non-polluted and decent. May Allah SWT grant us righteous off-spring, ameen.

Allah knows best but would love to study the deen possibly abroad inshaAllah and ofcourse to have found REST and REPOSE- inshaAllah. To love and be loved eternally, Ameen.

Qadr Allah...

InshaAllah happily married perhaps...?

Re: How many children i would like; ultimately Allah swt chooses to bless one with children or to keep us barren and He alone knows best, so i dont like quoting figures. I do believe however, that it's quality and not quantity especially when it comes to children, (and wives!) although i love children dearly and have been told lots of times that i will be a good mother mashallah, allahu 'alam (with all the babysitting i have done!), i really would prefer a small family, as tarbeeyah is very important and with the social climate today... well lets just say its really offputting! Our children may be a test for us and the things we cling to so dearly, are the very things that can lead us to ruin, may Allah swt save us, ameen.

Additionally we will be questioned about everything in our care, parenting is a great responsibility and not something to be taken lightly, so naturally i would want to be the best mother i could be, (raising my children together with a caring and devoted husband and father) so that inshallah Allah swt is pleased with us. Also the more blessings we have the greater our responsibility and accountability, so being content with little is a wonderful trait...But ofcourse its just Man proposing isnt it? We plan and Allah plans and He is the best of planners...

and finally... i dont like the pressure on women to produce football teams! A considerate husband should take his wife's health and wellbeing into account, yes we have been advised by our beloved Prophet SAW to have large families for the benefit of this ummah but to raise them correctly is also a mission, so everything needs to be put into context, contrary to popular male belief we are NOT baby making machines. I find this attitude some men have highly offensive.

So brothers, if you want a successful marriage and a large family then i suggest you ask yourselves if you truly have the qualities of a great shepherd!