Are U Concerned About The Ummah? Looking For Some1 Who'll Encourage The Good & Pray Tahujjad With Me

UK - North West   [ Click here for map ]

UK

Pakistan - Punjab   [ Click here for map ]

Islamabad

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Indian/Asian

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English

Urdu

Born and raised in the UK. Graduated in London. And then got sick of the place and what it represents, the artificialities, the materialism and love of the life. Its so easy to think you are being islamic, when you are facing very few difficulties or struggles, or just sitting back . I guess now the situation has changed quite a bit after recent events. Although i do believe it to be more important to live in a Muslim country - lots of work to there too. (not that they are all that better). However I have family still in the UK.

5'5" (165 cm)

135 lbs (61 kg)

Black

Brown

Toned

I sometimes wear glasses

I sometimes keep a beard

Allah knows best. He made me as He wished, And can take away from us what He wishes. Although this isnt an excuse to say I am ugly!
As far as beard is concerned, i follow the shafi madhab which doesnt consider it fardh.

Practical, Critical, Intelligent, Simple, Realistic

Those 5 words that describe me...hmmm, makes me look a bit too dry, and who 's gonna choose humble.. abit self defeating if you select that one...anyway the best aspect Allah knows best but I try and live my life by halal and haram, and am trying to get closer to Allah. I would never hit my wife, or abuse her physically, you can ask my wife!!!!
Inshallah I don't lie,
I am not usually fussed about the small things, eg. squeezing the toothpaste from the botom or the middle - although personally i prefer squeezing from the bottom - but i wont throw a tantrum or pick a fight because of that. But major things - especially if it effects children or the fardh duties would upset me, or if someone repeatedly doesn't listen.
You should expect me to love you, share with you, you should be my friend and companion as well as the others in my family. You should learn from me and me from you.
You should expect me to judge by Quran and Sunnah, and not tolerate haram things.

I like to play with kids, take them out, have some family time going out.. but usually the nice simple things.

I like eating out if there's a good place to eat, and i will probably expect you to have ideas on where to go.. its not fun having to decide yourself!!! besides, you have the right as well.

Enjoy watching tv with kids and wife.. even if its some cartoons! although barney does get on my nerves some times...

Go out with friends ocassionally, although i left most of them behind in the UK :(

I 'try' and keep fit... and maintain my figure for the lady or ladies as it maybe hopefully :)

although i am not a mental case with bulging rippling muscles, maybe a cross between a thin dude and bruce lee . lol

and i hate sports, i would rather watch something enjoyable with the family or wife or go out with them... anyday... versus watching cricket or football

At the same time I am not your typical person.. definitely unique...no one else like me on the earth...but then again i guess everyones different :$
put it this way not many people are like me...

Hmm... let me think about it, you can get back to me on that one. None of us are perfect, if we were we would be like the angels or prophets - a'uzobillah.
We were born in a kufr society, and our viewpoint must be that our thoughts emotions and behaviour are most probably wrong or from the wrong basis, and thus we must always look to constantly improve / correct / better ourselves.
I am absolutely a rubbish cook, and can just about do pasta, chips, omelletes and fried egg, anything more complicated i would have to help you, when i am at home, or i will get the kids out of the way while you cook :)
Ummm... not the best at tidying up the bedroom.. i got to admit... althoug i can keep the kitchen, bathroom, living room clean, its just the bedroom..... i have to throw my clothesand things all over the place!!!?! :@

Better organization, more reading, and more nafila (the things i would change are therefore implied)

Deja-vu...Hmm... let me think about it, you can get back to me on that one. I know I have some.Hers one though..Ummm... not the best at tidying up the bedroom.. i got to admit... although i can keep the kitchen, bathroom, living room clean, its just the bedroom..... i have to throw my clothes and things all over the place, for some unknown male primordial type of reason!!!?! :@

It would be wrong not to start with Muhammad(saw), after that i do look to the sahaba(ra) esp Musab ibn Umayr(ra)

The following hadiths hint at what i would change / do........The Messenger of Allah (saw) said, “Give glad-tidings to this Ummah of honour, establishment upon the earth, help and victory, and pre-eminence of the deen. Whosoever does an action of the Hereafter for a worldly motive, will have no portion of the Hereafter.” [Al-Hakim and Ahmad]
It is narrated by Ali (ra) who was the Khaleefah of the time that he once stood to deliver a speech when one of the Arab influentials, al ‘Asha’th ibnu Qays, objected at the existence of many non-Arab Muslims surrounding him (Ali). So Ali replied that these non-Arab Muslims are more active for this deen than the Arabs and then he narrated a Hadith that he heard the Messenger of Allah (saw) which emphasised that “they” will force this deen on you in the same way that you exerted the truth on them.....
...............Hey maybe non-Arabs aren't so bad then...

Not important

I never smoke

I drive a car/motorbike

I have no brothers

I have 1 sister

hmmm.. you can ask me later... probably cos i think i am writing waaay tooo much already

Better in small groups

varied

jeans and shirt

No

There is nothing except Islam

I pray more than 5 times a day

I fast in Ramadan

I have not performed Hajj, but intend to perform it

Sunni

Shafi madhab

Concerned about the affairs of the Ummah.
Although it asks for madhab, this is not an issue for me ie. follow knowledgeable scholars if you don't know, but don't fight each other over it.
More if you ask for it.......

Reading.
Watching the news
Movies occassionally
Time with the kids
Discussions

The Ummah should be one. United. Under a Leadership.
The world is going to change real fast and its all headed in one direction. And to be a part of it, is exciting, upsetting, motivating, sometimes depresing, angering all at the same time.
Not impressed with what the west has to offer, been there for over 25 yrs, down with their culture, take the science and technology, which is a right of everyone.

http://www.bbc.co.uk

http://www.dailytimes.com.pk

http://www.atimes.com

http://kcom

Sometimes

if i do, then its usually nasheeds

Quran, seerahs etc.. and i didnt put the yusaf ali ad, i prefer the hilali translation

islamic shaksiyah

dailytimes.com.pk.../ dawn /

programmes that are in english

University degree

Full time

Other

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sometimes hard
enjoyable when it goes right
intellectual taxing sometimes

Average

30-40 hours a week

No previous girlfriends etc. Alhumdolillah

A good, practicising, friendly, loving, supportive, dedicated wife, who also gave me some advice on this profile! mother of 2 wonderful daughters. May Allah bless them.... :) I am not looking for a replacement wife... rather another wonderful companion / partner (for myself.)And inshallah you will find my wife a good sister and friend.

Afghanistan
Azerbaijan
Bahrain
Belgium
Bosnia
Canada
Chechnya
Egypt - Cairo
Iraq
Jordan
Kazakhstan
Morocco
Nigeria
Oman
Palestine
Pakistan
Qatar
Saudi Arabia
Syria
Turkey
UK
Uzbekistan
Yemen

More than 18 years
Less than 34 years

Depends on the rest of the person

Quite important

Someone who is is open minded, willing to learn, teach and encourage each other to get closer to Allah., eg. wake me up and pray tahujjad together etc. Should not be inflenced by the society around her, able to think with her own mind. Pleasing to the eye. Race, colour, kids isn't an issue. Arabic would be preferable, I would love to learn it (again). Someone who yearns for the hereafter and is not in love with this life or materialistic. Must practice Islam, or be ready to. Sounds all too serious but then who defines what fun and pleasure is? ps. I may not be as extreme as you think,(it depends what you think extreme is!) but abiding by halal and haram is a must, although we are all human. 18-31, from any country, but must be willing to relocate.
Khimar and Jilbab is a must or should be worn v. soon. I am fairly laid back, and not fussed about many things, but other things will really wind me up, eg. issues regarding halal and haram
A good cook would be nice although i like various types of foods, paki, chinese, italian, fish and chips.
Someone who gives a nice massage would also be a plus!
Education is a plus, but Islam and common sense are much more important.... I have known some academic graduatesin my tome but boy are they 'thickos' when it comes to the real world.. sorry couldnt think of a better word.
Someone who is funny would be good,
likes to laugh.. although not mad... ;),
loving, generous, soft and kind...
someone with sabr,
a smiling face and twinkling eyes ;)

loves kids, is patient with them, DOESNT HIT kids, teaches them with or will teach them with tenderness, love, care, encouragement... dont worry i help you too...
able to get on with my family,
likes going out (occassionally!),
looks after herself (physically)... i am absolutely sorry , but i know there are some lovely people out their who are overisized, or maybe i am undersized ... but i have no desire to be squished or squashed :-o

ok maybe i'm asking for too much but if you are a little bit like this... give me a shout.....

Superficial or shallow girls, with no common sense. Soap or drama addicts. Shopaholics. Cunning or scheming women. non-muslims. 2 faced liars, lacking patience / sabr, hot-tempered, shouters, screamers, dish-smashers, crazy pscho nuts who have escaped from a mental institute!!!! :).... and so on....

i don't want anyone who says - 'accept me for who and what i am and i will not change'
If we believe we don't need to change then(auzobillah) how will we become better people, how
will the situation in the world change?
Its like saying you're already perfect - which none of us are.

Everyone has faults and no one is an angel. So a marriage has to worked at. No one is perfect (except Muhammad(saw), so therefore it means that we must all change something in us, otherwise there is no hope in a marriage, and more importantly no hope in becoming a better person.

Oh, yeh....some advice for people looking - even if you don't pick me... I dont believe in the western idea of soulmate. Their are 6 billion+ people and the west would have us believe that we got to find that 1 in a billion who would be our soulmate - Now that.. is impossible, and a cause for misery, and a lot of unhappy people!!! It makes it easy for people to cheat and have affairs and be miserable because they didn't find the right one and keep thinking what if he / she is still out there.
And finding a soulmate implies that you know what one is - and that's pretty difficult if you havent had 'experiences' before or if you dont have something to compare to.
Anyway the Prophet(s) and many of the Sahaba(r) married more than one, which definitely goes against the idea of a soulmate. Allah(swt) tells us in the Quran that for believing (pious) men there are believing pious women. He(swt) doesnt say anywhere that there is ONLY 1 created perfect match for each person. I hope this eases the 'tension' and frustration that some people feel when trying to find someone. Rather if you undertand what you want, the values and goals you believe in, what you want to achieve, the things that matter to you and the things that dont, and choose someone based on that, and then (after marriage) you will (inshallah) find that he she develops into someone you could call the perfect partner or ideal mate or your love, your sweetheart, your hunney bunney, strawberries and cream, your teddy bear, your cuddly wuddly, or whatever other name you wanna give her / him ..

smoking, back biting, lying, gossipping, someone who doesnt try to make an effort, or lives for this life or themselves, habitually committing haram..

with a net and dart gun... ;)or maybe .... exchange / discuss via email first

As soon as I find someone to marry

simple

With parents

More than 9 children

The 9+ kids desired is just a reflection on the fact that i don't mind how many kids i have hopefully lots, but whatever Allah wills.Things to teach kidsIslamHow to think, question, principles to judge by

In the same country, but different city

Allah knows best where I will be.. I can discuss more later

ooh, again what Allah wills but... it might someplace very hard or very good...!?! or somewhere in between - you probably wont figure that one out until you know me a lot better

Somethings may have changed, cos with time things change, so don't forget to ask. And K = A

My wife!!!!!!!!!!!!! You will probably want to and maybe have to talk to my wife. It would be obviously nice if everyone could get on with each other, hey even be best friends, and maybe if and when i am not around, or maybe worse, later on in life, it would be good if you could lean on each other